Why I stopped telling people my goals and you should too

A few nights ago, I caught myself doing something I thought was helpful.

I was replaying conversations with someone I care deeply about, wondering if they were okay, hoping they’d figure things out, thinking of ways I could help them fix it.

But then something stopped me cold:

“Worry is not love. I’m showing fear over something that hasn’t happened yet.”

That line has lived in my head ever since.

Because I realized how often I’ve confused the two. How often I’ve carried concern like a badge of loyalty. How often I’ve imagined things going wrong for the people I love because I cared.

Because I was scared for them.

But what I’ve learned from the last few years of studying emotional energy, consciousness, and prayer:

What you imagine for someone becomes part of what they have to work through.

Your worry adds weight. Your fear (even well-intentioned) subtly tells their spirit:

“I don’t know if you’re safe. I don’t know if you’ll make it through.”

And that energy lingers.

It doesn’t matter if you keep the words to yourself. They feel it.

We all do.

This world is energetic.

We pull states out of one another. We co-shape each other’s paths.

So what’s the alternative?

It’s not pretending everything is fine.

It’s holding a steady vision of everything working out even if they can’t see it for themselves.

You don’t have to know how it’ll get better. You just have to believe it’s possible.

If imagining their full transformation feels out of reach, just picture one small improvement.

> A better meal

> A longer walk

> A surprising moment of clarity.

That alone creates a new potential and opens a door. One that, if they choose to walk through it, won’t feel so far anymore.

This is a deeper kind of prayer.

Being able to believe that life is already moving in their favor is the most loving thing you can do.

Do not repeat their struggle back to them,

Do not preach.

Do not panic.

When you start practicing this with others, you’ll notice something change in you.

You’ll begin to recognize where you’ve been carrying the weight of other people’s suffering…and mistaking it for love.

So if there’s someone you’ve been worrying about lately…

Pause for a second today.

Close your eyes.

Take a deep breath.

And imagine them a little bit more whole.

That belief might be the thing they need most.

—Wiz